Perhaps even being careful to only talk to a couple of close friends about the details of how you are processing or struggling, just to protect and build up the other person in your speech.
It is normal (and sometimes necessary) that your relationship not look exactly like it did before you dated.
“I talked to X about this, and he/she thinks we should break up.” It’s tempting to do this rather than taking responsibility oneself.When it comes to deciding who we will or won’t marry, we need to take advice, yet remember that ultimately this is a decision each person must make.That doesn’t mean you should be cruel; we are still called to speak the truth in love (Eph.) and to speak only those words that build up and are fitting (Eph. This is a simple way to honor them and provide space for questions or discussion.“So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.” 1- Corinthians If I had a dime for every time someone has sat on my couch, in tears about a recent breakup, I think I’d be a rich man. Fighting bitterness or fighting to get over the pain of the loss. ) If the gospel really makes a difference in our lives, it should show itself in the worst of moments.
I pastor a very young church (the average age is 28). ” conversations is a fairly normal part of what I do. Not every relationship ends in marriage. Giving yourself over to quick peeks at his or her face-book page or Instagram account. But if Christian dating looks no different than the world then our faith shows itself to be relatively useless.
It’s easier to run and avoid than to do the hard work of living “at peace” with one another, and eventually (sometimes years later), again being friends.
It is not wrong to go to another church, but we don’t want to presume that is the only thing you can really do after a break-up.
Even in the act of breaking up, you need to be thoughtful, gracious and loving towards the other person (Ephesians 4:1-3; Colossians. After all, he or she is a child of God, and is loved by God, so what gives you any right to treat them any different than God?
If you are not sure how to do this, find an older, godly Christian man or woman and ask them for help.
It’s okay to distance yourself or set some boundaries in order to protect your heart—give it some time.