Dating a woman out of my league

And even then, it's been limited to super-attractive women dating less-attractive men in the pursuit of money and/or fame.

But logic tells us this paradigm is completely outdated, because looks actually , it's been proven that "good-looks disparities" are common between couples, and often make for a lasting relationship (because, you know, personality).

We get so hung up on beauty privilege, the halo effect, the value of facial symmetry and waist-to-hip ratios and the idea that only 20% of whomever get 80% of the fucking that we tend to ignore things that don’t fit the accepted narrative.

One of the more infamous moments was an episode where Lena Dunham’s character Hannah hooks up with an attractive, older doctor played by Patrick Wilson for a weekend-long sex-spree.Of course, everyone on the Internet took this in without even blinking, accepting that people are complex and varied in their desires and understanding that attraction is a complicated beast.…Nah, I’m totally fucking with you.If you didn't get a hot girl in high school (and most of us didn't), then you decided that you were a minor-league player when it came to women.From then on you went for less-attractive women, you expected less-attractive women, and you got less-attractive women.Consequently, their haircuts and clothes are hopelessly out-of-date. Hot women simply will not bed down with a guy whose looks are way out of date. This doesn't have to be hard, or even that expensive.

Get a new hairstyle, and get your hair cut by a real pro.

Do things that are fun, and that involve other people.

If you go to bars, learn pool, darts, and other bar games so you can play those games with girls. Get involved in your life in activities that are fun and that put you around other people. An important part of going for the women you want is want.

Now, late to the party as I may be, I have to say that this does bring up the ever-popular topic of whether it’s possible to date someone who is “out of your league”.

After all, many of us know someone who punches above his or her weight class, dating people who they – by all rights – should have based on the flawed idea that the only thing that people value is looks.

According to NYMag.com, researchers found that "while those who had begun going out recently were rated as equally physically attractive, there was often a clear 'hot one' in couples who had known each other for extended periods of time (as friends or acquaintances) before they became involved romantically."This is two pieces of good news disguised as one, because a) you've potentially already met your future husband but haven't realized you're in love with him yet, and b) if you meet someone painfully more attractive than you, you can wear him down with years of friendship and subtly make him love you.