This is important, since children who are raised by both biological parents in a low-conflict home are more likely to be emotionally and psychologically healthy than children whose parents are co-habiting or divorced.
Many, many couples still live "happily ever after" after marriage, and you can, too.You just need to know where you want to go in life, and what choices are most likely to get you there.But unlike death and the universe’s size, picking a life partner is fully in your control, so it’s critical to make yourself entirely clear on how big a deal the decision really is and to thoroughly analyze the most important factors in making it. I’m pretty sure no one over 80 reads Wait But Why, so no matter who you are, that’s a of time—and almost the entirety of the rest of your one existence.(Sure, people get divorced, but you don’t think you will.In fact, couples who live together before marriage divorce at higher rates.
There are other ways to set yourself up for a happy, healthy marriage.
I see a lot of single women in my office, women who -- despite being smart, successful and attractive -- complain that the dating world isn't being kind to them. If her answer is the latter, we take a critical look at her dating habits. Are her choices leading her to the life that she wants for herself?
To be sure, both single women and men must navigate a dating world that often seems long on narcissists and nutjobs, and short on nice and normal. They get stuck in dead-end relationships Of course, men have their complaints too, and these will be addressed in an upcoming blog. Over the past decade or so, I've found there are a few common pitfalls that women who want to get married inadvertently fall into, and which decrease their chances of getting married while they're still young enough to walk down the aisle without stopping for breath.
A single person who would like to find a great relationship is one step away from it, with their to-do list reading, “1) Find a great relationship.” People in unhappy relationships, on the other hand, are threeleaps away, with a to-do list of “1) Go through a soul-crushing break-up. 3) Find a great relationship.” Not as bad when you look at it that way, right?
All the research on how vastly happiness varies between happy and unhappy marriages makes perfect sense, of course. Thinking about how overwhelmingly important it is to pick the right life partner is like thinking about how huge the universe really is or how terrifying death really is—it’s too intense to internalize the reality of it, so we just don’t think about it that hard and remain in slight denial about the magnitude of the situation. If you live a long life, that’s about the number of years you’re going to spend with your current or future life partner, give or take a few.
In other words, a child's chances of living in the same home as his or her biological but non-married parents until he or she is a teenager is negligible.